3 (Unconventional) Tips for Irresistible Charisma

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I don’t know about you, but when I hear women like Michelle Obama speak, I just can’t help but listen. There’s something magnetic about her. Something irresistible.


I often wonder, “Wouldn’t it be nice if all women had her presence, eloquence, and poise?” Is this a real possibility?


My answer? Yes! And, in fact, this if what I often teach.


While not all women might have a BA from Princeton and a Law degree from Harvard (or be former First Ladies!), I believe all women have innate charisma. See, contrary to popular belief, charisma is not something that one’s born with. It’s a trait that can be totally cultivated with practice and intention … And it’s easier than you think.


These are my 3 favorite ways to become irresistibly charismatic:


1. Ground your energy

Before you go out and speak, whether from the stage, at work, or in a private conversation, take a few minutes to ground yourself (set a timer for 5-10 minutes). Stand hip-width apart with arms by your side and close your eyes. Take 2 deep belly breaths and imagine having roots connecting your feet to the ground and going as deep as you can imagine. Keep breathing until the timer is up.

This ensures that your energy stays within you instead of being projected outward onto your audience or interlocutor. You’ll stay centered in yourself and what you have to say -- which is the #1 quality that all charismatic women share.


2. Smile

When we have to speak in public, we’re often so focused on ourselves and anxious that we forget to pay attention to what our face’s doing. We want to connect but we don’t realize we might be actually throwing people off by looking too serious or disengaged.

The solution? Give the audience the gift of your beautiful smile. And to avoid forgetting about it, do this: script smiling into your content (with a smiley face or the like).


3. Hands on your heart

Putting your hands on your heart is the first step to authentic presence. It calms your nervous system and puts you in touch with the soft, compassionate, loving part of yourself. And it opens the channel for loving connection between you and your audience.

Ultimately, charisma is about being fully present to yourself and your audience. It’s about being aware of the power of your words and presence. I always walk on stage with my hands on my heart. It showcases my genuine desire genuine to connect with others and change the world, one speech at a time.

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And now over to you. Tell me ...

Which technique are you going to try?

Let me know in the comments below.


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